Somewhere towards the end of May I was discussing rp characters with a friend of mine over at the fifthwind writers forums and we got onto the topic of opposite gender characters and how to write them.
So, you’re a guy/girl writing about a girl/guy. If you’re anything like me, you’re probably not too sure on how well you’re going to be doing when you do. So naturally, the best thing is to ask someone of the opposite sex right? All guys and gals think just like all other guys and gals so its bound to work, right?
Here’s the basic facts folks. While it is true that there are traits more common to males or females, most traits are FAR from gender unique and in fact your can’t really classify any one trait as either feminine or masculine! The truth of the matter is that a person’s personality traits and general behavior has much more to do with the upbringing and social standing than with their gender.
For example, a child brought up by a single father that enjoys the outdoors is much more likely to be outdoorsy than a child brought up in a family that hates camping. A child from a rich and open wallet family is more likely to spend lots of money than a child brought up learning how to conserve money.
There is no true and proper way to write a character of the opposite sex, but as long as you remember that they are more than just their gender, you should do fine.